Intimacy....
Intimacy and Passion....
Two different or one in the same
For me being intimate with someone is hard, but then I start to think isn't being passionate and intimate the same thing?
Being intimate means that you are really comfortable with that person!
Passionate is simply putting feeling behind something!
Let's talk about Passion first just cause it talks for itself unlike intimacy, Passion is just like what I said your putting feeling behind it. Whether it be sex, a job, something you love to do. When it comes to sex everyone puts passion behind it. Due to the fact because they love the sensation of being inside or on top of someone else, as well as the sensation of having an orgasm. So there is always passion behind it, even those into BDSM and into different fetishes. There is always passion behind it because they love what they do, how they do it and the result from it. There will always be passion behind something you enjoy doing.
Now sex is not only passionate, but usually intimate as well, to have sex you have to have some sort of connection with someone. Whether it be a one night stand, with a bf/gf, husband/wife ect, or even if your under the influence there still is always a connection. Now I think that you have to have an even stronger connection to be able to stare into someone's eyes while your having sex. True or not I'm not 100% sure, maybe I'm saying this because I barely look into anyone's eyes during sex. Even just having a simple conversation with someone I tend to not look into someone's eyes for a long period of time maybe a few seconds or so. I have "intimacy" issues you can say, looking into someone's eyes unlocks a whole new side of the word "intimacy".
Recently I experienced a whole new level of intimacy! I don't know what was going on between me and this person. Me and him had a crazy connection sexually and just laying there talking! Sexually it was a whole new experience, not only did we look into each others eyes we took our time and he listened. Usually he's the one taking charge and I'm the one listening! This time I took charge....ok well I didn't take charge I just told him to slow it down. Even though we like it rough and fast which feels amazing, it was something new and he listened and slowed it down. It definitely made the sex hotter, and reached more orgasms then ever! It's crazy how taking your time can make you feel a whole different way and experience something completely new. I think doing this makes you see the person and yourself in a different level; meaning you not only see them as your boyfriend, a friends with benefits or even a good lay you see them on a more intense level. It's hard to explain you just have to do to understand! This made me and this person have a deeper connection especially when he told me it was his first time staring into someone else's eyes during sex. I saw the "Passion" in his eyes, and when we were just laying there talking again it was something I never experienced as well. Just talking about everything and still looking into each others eyes making the conversation a bit intimate. I bring up Intimacy and Passion due to the fact we actually brought it up in our conversation. He even told/asked me "You have intimacy issues don't you?!", I wonder how he could tell. He said "Because you don't look into my eyes when you talk to me.". Well he definitely hit the nail on the head with that one! We looked into each others eyes when we were talking, but I still can't just stare into someones eyes for a long period of time. He is the first person that I stared into his eyes during sex, and the first person that I looked into his eyes for longer than I can usually when we were talking.
I keep asking myself though why did that happen? Was it the liquor? Why exactly did we keep the eye contact? No I'm not in Love, I mean i have love for him I care about him. No were not dating, nor is this a friends with benefits..... Can't put a label on what we have/ what we are..... He is the one person who always makes me think! It could be anything and here I am thinking! So like anything else we talk about, he says to me, or does it makes me think!
Can you be intimate without having passion? Or can you be passionate with out being intimate?
I think you can not have one without the other when it comes to sex. It's more of a view point on how passionate and intimate you are with someone, either way there is still a little of both in it!
Intimacy....
Intimacy and Passion....
Two different or one in the same?
